The Estate News & Blog

For many, Valentine’s Week is a time filled with expressions of love, connection, and togetherness. But for men in recovery—especially those who find themselves alone due to the consequences of their addiction—this week can be a painful reminder of what was lost. It’s easy to feel isolated, to dwell on past relationships that didn’t survive the weight of addiction, or to compare yourself to others who seem to have it all together.

In the journey of sobriety, one of the most unexpected and challenging aspects can be learning how to feel again. For many men, the use of substances served as a numbing agent—a way to suppress difficult emotions, navigate stress, or simply escape the complexities of life. However, once substances are removed, what remains can often feel overwhelming. Embracing emotions without the crutch of substances is not only possible but also vital to long-term recovery and personal growth.

For men stepping into a life of sobriety, one of the most common and challenging hurdles is the restless, racing mind—the endless loop of thoughts. Even in moments of calm, it can feel like the mind is constantly racing, analyzing the past, worrying about the future, or creating unnecessary noise that makes peace feel out of reach.

Recovery is about more than just abstaining from substances—it’s about creating a healthy, fulfilling lifestyle that supports your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Nutrition plays a vital role in this process, acting as a cornerstone for improved energy, mood stabilization, and overall health. Let’s explore how eating well can become a powerful tool in your sobriety journey.

The new year offers a natural pause—a chance to reflect, reset, and embrace the opportunity to rewrite your story. While you can't change the past, you hold the power to reframe it, learn from it, and move forward with intention, creativity and purpose.

As Thanksgiving approaches, it’s natural to reflect on gratitude—but for those in recovery, this season can be  challenging. At Soberman’s Estate, we believe in celebrating Thanksgiving in ways that reinforce strength, growth, and authenticity in sobriety. Here are some unique strategies to approach Thanksgiving with resilience and gratitude.

This morning, as I sat in Maryland, visiting my son, I found myself drawn into the quiet rhythms of nature. The leaves, now turning shades of red, yellow, and brown, fell gently to the ground. It was peaceful, almost meditative, to simply be present, to hear the birds sing, and watch the trees shed their leaves. In this moment, I couldn’t help but think about the wisdom nature holds, especially in how trees instinctively know what they need to do to survive, thrive, and grow.

At Soberman’s Estate, our commencement stone ceremonies mark the incredibly transformative journey of each of our clients. These ceremonies are more than just the end of treatment—they symbolize rebirth, newfound strength, and the beginning of a life rooted in sobriety and purpose.

One of the aspects I truly cherish about my role at Soberman’s Estate is the opportunity to wear many different hats. Whether it’s being an equine and meditation coach, a group facilitator, a social media/blog creator, an assistant to anyone in need, or even stepping in as a handyman, I find joy in each responsibility. However, one of my favorite roles by far is that of the “Alumni Coordinator.”

In the pursuit of long-term recovery from Substance Use Disorder, living intentionally with mindfulness is a powerful tool. Mindfulness offers a pathway to stay present, grounded, and purposeful, allowing individuals to fully engage with their sobriety journey. This article explores the concept of mindfulness, its benefits for those in recovery, and practical ways to incorporate mindfulness into daily life.