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As Thanksgiving approaches, it’s natural to reflect on gratitude—but for those in recovery, this season can be  challenging. At Soberman’s Estate, we believe in celebrating Thanksgiving in ways that reinforce strength, growth, and authenticity in sobriety. Here are some unique strategies to approach Thanksgiving with resilience and gratitude.

This morning, as I sat in Maryland, visiting my son, I found myself drawn into the quiet rhythms of nature. The leaves, now turning shades of red, yellow, and brown, fell gently to the ground. It was peaceful, almost meditative, to simply be present, to hear the birds sing, and watch the trees shed their leaves. In this moment, I couldn’t help but think about the wisdom nature holds, especially in how trees instinctively know what they need to do to survive, thrive, and grow.

At Soberman’s Estate, our commencement stone ceremonies mark the incredibly transformative journey of each of our clients. These ceremonies are more than just the end of treatment—they symbolize rebirth, newfound strength, and the beginning of a life rooted in sobriety and purpose.

One of the aspects I truly cherish about my role at Soberman’s Estate is the opportunity to wear many different hats. Whether it’s being an equine and meditation coach, a group facilitator, a social media/blog creator, an assistant to anyone in need, or even stepping in as a handyman, I find joy in each responsibility. However, one of my favorite roles by far is that of the “Alumni Coordinator.”

In the pursuit of long-term recovery from Substance Use Disorder, living intentionally with mindfulness is a powerful tool. Mindfulness offers a pathway to stay present, grounded, and purposeful, allowing individuals to fully engage with their sobriety journey. This article explores the concept of mindfulness, its benefits for those in recovery, and practical ways to incorporate mindfulness into daily life.

Recovery from addiction is often a challenging journey that requires commitment, strength, and resilience. Seasonal changes can often affect those on the path of sobriety, making it essential to prioritize not only physical health but also mental well-being during this process. As the leaves begin to change and the air turns crisp, fall offers a beautiful backdrop for those in recovery to focus on their mental health. We hope to inspire you with a few ideas for some fun fall activities that can boost your overall wellbeing.

Recovery is more than just a journey of self-transformation, it’s one of redefining relationships with family and friends. At Soberman’s Estate, the importance of setting boundaries is emphasized as a critical step toward sustainable recovery. Boundaries are the invisible lines we draw to protect our well-being and respect our needs during the delicate phases of recovery.

Alin Calini LPC Primary Therapist

The Need for Boundaries in Recovery:

During treatment, men are often vulnerable to external influences. Old patterns of interaction with loved ones may trigger a relapse or hinder progress. Establishing boundaries is therefore not about isolation; it's about creating an environment conducive to healing. Boundaries allow individuals to disconnect from unhealthy relationships and behaviors and provide space for growth.

How Boundaries Aid Recovery:

• Preventing Burnout: By saying no to excessive demands from others, men in recovery can conserve their energy and focus on their healing process.
• Reducing Stress: Clear boundaries minimize stressful interactions, reducing the risk of relapse due to emotional strain.
• Building Self-Esteem: When individuals set and maintain boundaries, they affirm their self-worth and gain confidence in their decision-making.
• Improving Relationships: Paradoxically, boundaries can strengthen relationships by fostering respect and understanding between the individual and their loved ones.
• Encouraging Independence: Learning to set boundaries is a step toward autonomy, an essential aspect of life post-recovery.

Setting Boundaries with Family:

Family dynamics can be complex, and it's not uncommon for family members to inadvertently hinder the recovery process. Open communication is key. Men are encouraged to express their needs calmly and clearly, without blame. It's important to articulate what behaviors are acceptable and which are not, and to stand firm on these decisions.

Setting Boundaries with Friends:

Friendships can also challenge recovery, especially if those friendships were formed around substance use. It's crucial to identify which relationships are supportive of recovery and which are detrimental. This may mean taking a break or ending friendships that pose a risk to sobriety.

Setting boundaries is an empowering practice that is vital for recovery. It's a skill that when learned and embodied, will give men the ability to maintain healthy boundaries which will serve them well in all facets of life, and aid them in their journey of recovery.

Every year on November 19, the world celebrates International Men's Day (IMD). It's a day that serves as a reminder of the diverse challenges and triumphs men face in today's world. It's a day dedicated to celebrating men's achievements and contributions to society, family, marriage, and childcare, while also highlighting the importance of men's health and well-being.

The holiday season is a time of joy, celebration, and togetherness. However, for individuals in recovery, it can also be a time filled with triggers, stress, and temptations that may threaten their sobriety. Staying sober during the holidays may be challenging, but it is achievable with the right strategies and support. We’ve come up with 12 practical tips to help you maintain your sobriety throughout season.

Have you ever felt stuck, like you've taken a tumble in life that you just can't recover from? Or perhaps you're one of those who can easily rise, dust off the debris, and push forward without looking back. This resilience—or lack thereof—shapes not only our experiences but also our journey toward recovery.

Imagine, for a moment, navigating the ups and downs of life as a young horse embarking on his first adventure out from the safety of a fenced arena. Take Dreamer, my young colt that was about 18-months old at the time, for example. On his inaugural trail ride, he faced an array of obstacles—a few daunting logs, a challenging incline, and even a shallow stream to cross. He accomplished each task impressively, gaining confidence despite the gusty winds that can unsettle even mature horses. Dreamer was handling the ride with confidence, grace and ease.

As my husband and I were riding back towards home, we were discussing how impressively Dreamer had performed. As the ride neared its end, however, Dreamer stumbled. Falling forward onto his knees and right shoulder, he nearly toppled over entirely. Yet, he managed to compose himself quickly. With just a subtle lift of the reins from me, Dreamer found his balance and returned to a stand. As if nothing happened, he resumed walking, carrying me safely back home. Upon arrival, the remark was made, "I'm glad you both survived the fall." A simple yet profound observation that prompted my reflection on resilience and recovery.