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Embracing Change in Your Sobriety Journey

During the month of December, our blogs have really been focused on the challenges of maintaining sobriety during the holiday season. We’ve been sharing tips and strategies of what to do when triggered, how to decline a party invitation, and how to manage those holiday stressors. But what about searching for that perfect gift for your friend or loved one in recovery? I attended a great ornament and gift exchange party last night, and out of 21 people, I was most likely the only one who did not drink. And what I was noticing, was about 75 % of the gifts contained alcohol, or alcohol related items, such as wine glasses etc…  It appears that it has become a pretty common gift nowadays.                                                                                                                                                            Navigating the path of recovery is a journey of strength, and courage especially this time of year. If you have a loved one or a friend that is currently on their path of sobriety, you might be wondering how to show your support and encouragement. Finding the right gift can be a meaningful way to express your care and respect for their recovery journey. Here, are some thoughtful gift ideas that are both supportive and appropriate for men in recovery.

In the world of equine-assisted therapy, a rare few horses have the grace, empathy, and intelligence to leave an indelible mark on the lives they touch. Cowboy, my beloved horse, was one such extraordinary soul. This post is a tribute to Cowboy, who was not just an ordinary horse, but a true partner, healer, friend, and a savior in his own right.

December brings about my favorite time of year. I love all of the festive decorations, the kids and grandchildren visiting, preparing holiday meals, and the smell of something yummy baking in the oven. For most people it is a time of sharing memories, joy, and laughter with one another. However, for those that are trying to overcome addiction or mourning the loss of a loved one, it can be a period of increased loneliness and emotional struggle. The contrast between the festive atmosphere and their personal experiences can intensify feelings of isolation and grief. If we can bring awareness and understanding of how challenging this month can be, maybe we can help others learn to navigate through the season in a supportive and healthy way.

The Holiday Season can be especially challenging for those that are on the journey of recovery from Substance use addiction. 

Recovery from addiction is often a challenging journey that requires commitment, strength, and resilience. Seasonal changes can often affect those on the path of sobriety, making it essential to prioritize not only physical health but also mental well-being during this process. As the leaves begin to change and the air turns crisp, fall offers a beautiful backdrop for those in recovery to focus on their mental health. We hope to inspire you with a few ideas for some fun fall activities that can boost your overall wellbeing.

Recovery is more than just a journey of self-transformation, it’s one of redefining relationships with family and friends. At Soberman’s Estate, the importance of setting boundaries is emphasized as a critical step toward sustainable recovery. Boundaries are the invisible lines we draw to protect our well-being and respect our needs during the delicate phases of recovery.

Alin Calini LPC Primary Therapist

The Need for Boundaries in Recovery:

During treatment, men are often vulnerable to external influences. Old patterns of interaction with loved ones may trigger a relapse or hinder progress. Establishing boundaries is therefore not about isolation; it's about creating an environment conducive to healing. Boundaries allow individuals to disconnect from unhealthy relationships and behaviors and provide space for growth.

How Boundaries Aid Recovery:

• Preventing Burnout: By saying no to excessive demands from others, men in recovery can conserve their energy and focus on their healing process.
• Reducing Stress: Clear boundaries minimize stressful interactions, reducing the risk of relapse due to emotional strain.
• Building Self-Esteem: When individuals set and maintain boundaries, they affirm their self-worth and gain confidence in their decision-making.
• Improving Relationships: Paradoxically, boundaries can strengthen relationships by fostering respect and understanding between the individual and their loved ones.
• Encouraging Independence: Learning to set boundaries is a step toward autonomy, an essential aspect of life post-recovery.

Setting Boundaries with Family:

Family dynamics can be complex, and it's not uncommon for family members to inadvertently hinder the recovery process. Open communication is key. Men are encouraged to express their needs calmly and clearly, without blame. It's important to articulate what behaviors are acceptable and which are not, and to stand firm on these decisions.

Setting Boundaries with Friends:

Friendships can also challenge recovery, especially if those friendships were formed around substance use. It's crucial to identify which relationships are supportive of recovery and which are detrimental. This may mean taking a break or ending friendships that pose a risk to sobriety.

Setting boundaries is an empowering practice that is vital for recovery. It's a skill that when learned and embodied, will give men the ability to maintain healthy boundaries which will serve them well in all facets of life, and aid them in their journey of recovery.

Every year on November 19, the world celebrates International Men's Day (IMD). It's a day that serves as a reminder of the diverse challenges and triumphs men face in today's world. It's a day dedicated to celebrating men's achievements and contributions to society, family, marriage, and childcare, while also highlighting the importance of men's health and well-being.

While every day ought to be an opportunity for us to embody kindness, today, November 13, stands out as World Kindness Day - urging us to realign our focus if we’ve momentarily lost sight of it.

As the holiday season draws near, it's a period deeply rooted in gratitude, a sentiment that resonates profoundly with our endeavors here at Soberman’s Estate.